Being a Stay at Home Mum – A Few Months On

A couple of weeks ago I shared that I’m blogging now and that one day a week I’ll be pursuing avenues of work while Dave does childcare.  I really do still consider myself to be a Stay at Home Mum.  Six days out of seven is okay isn’t it!?

My Family is my life, I can’t believe I’d say it like that.  It’s amazing how having a child bonds you with another person, it’s rather magical.  Dave, my partner is my rock and is the main reason I get to be a Stay at Home Mummy.

When I left school, I opted to go to University.  A wonderful life experience and a degree in Multimedia Design to boot.   I’ve never really had a career and jumped about from admin job to admin job.  Never really settling on anything.  So being a Mum has changed my life so and now am happy to say not only is it my job it is my life.

The decision to stay at home took months and it was quite a shock when I got my P45!   Now several months on the answer was correct and I’m happy to say I am in love with it.  Who couldn’t resist staying at home with this:

Robot crouched on the floor in combat dungarees holding a toy tractor, he is beaming at the camera

As I’ve said, I am a Stay At Home Mum.   I always knew I would be a good Mum, people tell me that I am.  Sometimes I don’t feel like I am though.  It’s hard work, it’s not 9 – 5 anymore, it’s 24 hours a day, every day of the week, for life!  It’s relentless but so rewarding when you see the first gummy smiles and get your first hug, the giggles and the fun.  I wouldn’t change it for the world.

If you have never seen this video before, this pretty much sums it up being a Mum:

Life is certainly different from when I worked in an office.  We get up about 7am, after a milk feed, we take it easy and leisurely get up, dressed and have breakfast.  We’re normally done around 9am.  In the mornings we tend to get out to a baby group, or go for a walk or to the shops.  Back for lunch and then the Robot naps.   This is when I down tools and blog.  After nap time we, play, we go for walks, tidy, make tea.  It varies each day.  After tea time we get the Robot through the bath and into bed.

The best thing about staying at home is getting to watch the Robot play, grow and learn.  I feel very lucky to have him in my life.  The loneliness hits a bit sometimes but since the Robot has become a bit more interactive this has lessened.

It really is the best thing that I have ever done.  Becoming a Mum.  I don’t miss any of my old jobs, I am embracing life with my new one, a Mummy.

Are you a stay at home Mum?  How do you find it?

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49 Comments

  1. Lucy at occupation: (m)other

    So lovely to read such a positive experience of staying at home to care for children. I sometimes feel that we all focus more on the negatives when if we’ve made a choice (not that everyone has) we’ve made it for a reason and so why shouldn’t we own it! I don’t regret a thing about leaving my career to be with my son and now my daughter…I see it as a very temporary arrangement anyway, a few years in and he’s already at preschool then school next. After 18 months I did feel a need to do some things for myself and the blog has been part of that. Moving forward I’d like to see where it could take me so maybe one day I’ll be a working at home mother! Lovely post, go you x
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    1. isntitpretty

      Thank you Lucy. I don’t regret leaving my job at all. I love that blogging has given me some sort of release to my life that I thought I’d lost. It is such a short space of time and when they are at school I can look for something then.

  4. Angela Watling

    Such a lovely post! It’s wonderful that you’re happy with your decision. It sounds like you have a really great routine goingon which helps to focus the days and make sure you do things. We have a similar pattern on my SAHM-days! Haven’t watched the video yet as on the train with no headphones. It’s saved for later though! #FamilyFun
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  7. donna

    I’ve recently become a work from home mum. Like you i’ve never really had a career. My husband works long hours as a chef, and we have no family near by, so i as finding working around childcare and school almost impossible. So i thought I’d have a go at freelance writing. It’s going really well. The kids generally let me do bits of work during the day, and husband doesn’t get home until after 10.

    I am feeling the loneliness a little. Husband is gone 5 days a week really, i see him for the odd hour before sleep. I’ve never been one for baby groups. But i think its time to force myself to try, to let the girl meet other children if nothing else.

    Thanks for sharing your story.

    #familyfun
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  11. The Mum Reviews

    It’s so wonderful that you are happy being a SAHM and finding it so rewarding. It’s lovely that you’ve got a great routine and find time to blog too! I work from home part of the week and understand what you mean about being a bit lonely sometimes, but that side does get easier as they grow. #familyfun

  14. Squirmy Popple

    I’m glad you’re loving it! I’m really glad that I took a year of maternity leave, but I’m not sure I could do the SAMH thing full time – I don’t love my job, but I do love being able to have Popple-free time and use my skills. I think I’d work three days a week ideally, but right now I work 4.5 – not exactly the work/life balance I want. #FamilyFun
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    1. isntitpretty

      Since Dave has been looking after the Robot more I’ve started to realise that I need a bit of Robot free time too. It is just a nice break away and makes the time with him even more special. It also nice to see Dave and him bond together. x

  15. Sarah | Digital Motherhood

    It’s great that you love being a SAHM, I read so many post from mums who would rather be at work. I’m not a SAHM, my daughter’s 5 and at school but I worked when she was a baby too. Partly through the need to keep my income but also partly because I would go completely stir crazy if I was at home all day! #FamilyFun

    1. isntitpretty

      That is funny though, I don’t read many posts about the need to go back to work. Maybe I have lost myself in a sea of SAHM blogs! I could appreciate a day at work occasionally but I love my son and spending all the time with him.

  16. Beth

    My oldest is 7 and I’ve had periods of time at home and in work since becoming a mum. At the moment I’m home full time with the 16 month old. I’m definitely enjoying this period more this time around, she’s definitely our last and growing up so fast. I know that I’ll miss it once it’s gone.

    #FamilyFun
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    1. isntitpretty

      I’m glad I have blogging to keep me sane. In my past life I would have turned to Sewing and TV – things I really don’t have time for anymore! I love being at home with the Robot

  19. Twicemicrowaved tea

    This post really sums up how I feel about being a stay at home mum too. I went back to work part time after maternity leave, thinking that it would be good for me to have a bit of a balance, but after a few months I realised that I wanted to be at home. It was definitely the best decision I ever made. The days can be long and it’s much harder than being at work, but like you say, it’s so rewarding and I feel so lucky that I get to spend every day with my little girl. #familyfun
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  20. Sam

    What a lovely post. I’m so happy you are happy being a SAHM. I’m also a SAHM and it was a massive decision to make because I was leaving behind a career I’d worked so hard for, and I earned more than the OH at the time too. But I don’t regret it for a second. The days can be long and lonely sometimes but a simple smile and a hug from your child instantly reminds you of why it’s worth it.
    #familyfun
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  22. Mindful Mummy Mission

    Sounds like things are going really well and you have found your vocation – such a cute pic of the robot too – like you say who wouldn’t want to spend time with that sweetie? I work 3 days a week which is a good balance for me…. though I do feel sad when I leave the kids on the first day of my working week but then I LOVE coming back to them and having fun time at the end of the day. #familyfun
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  24. Pat - White Camellias

    It’s so lovely to hear you are happy with your decision and thriving as a SAHM. I agree it is very tough and very rewarding also. I love being at home but lately I have been thinking that maybe I need a job. I think this is because my children are older. So unless I’m brave enough to have another one (crazy I know) I probably won’t be a SAHM for much longer x #familyfun
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    1. isntitpretty

      Good luck to you if and when you start searching. I think I’d probably need to find a job or something when they (get me, need 2 first) get older and into school age. Something that will work around school too would be good!

  25. Susie - This Is Me Now

    This is great to read. I’m also a stay at home mum and I love it most of the time but sometimes I find it lonely. Some days it is so relentless and hard workbut I try to remember my mum saying it’s the most important job of all and I think that’s true. We have a pretty good routine but it’s when it’s out the window that I struggle. Starting my blog has given me some of the old me back which I need.my daughter is nearly 2 and she is definitely more interactive which makes it easier. It’s also amazing to see her learn and know that I am helping to teach her is just wonderful. I hope to be at home until my children go to school but am playing it by ear for now. If I find it a few months I’m not enjoying it then I can always looking for part time work. #familyfun x
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