Blogging: Is 12 Months The New 6 Months?

It’s pretty much 12 months since I got a bit serious with my blog.  By serious I mean growing it, finding readers, writing regularly and dare I say becoming addicted to it.

You could say it's my 12 month blog Birthday!??
You could say it’s my 12 month blog Birthday!??

At the start of the process I read a lot of established bloggers blogs to get tips, hints and tricks. It is blooming useful really and is one top tip to any newbie out there, read, read, read, write, read some more…  I found people like Katy, Abi and their Live Love Blog Magazine which I devoured by the hour.  One thing I that came up time and time again was:

95% of bloggers fail within the first 6 Months

A shocking stat and one that I could completely understand from my many failed attempts at starting blogs over the past 15 years.

This time though I stumbled upon the parenting blogger community who are to some extent a very friendly and welcoming bunch.  There are a few that will jump over you without a second thought but generally everyone wants to help each other out.

I’ve been riding a bit of a roller coaster on my blog and have recently been taking a bit of a back seat and just trying to enjoy it for what it is.  A place that is mine, a place I can write, document and share with the people I love who genuinely take an interest in my family and our adventures.

family shot at in the rainforest area

Having time to reflect though has got me thinking of this statement.  Do 95% of blogs fail within 6 Months?  Really?  How on earth would we ever know!  Is there some sort of web hosting statistician out there monitoring the word blog?  No, I doubt it.

The World Wide Web is a massive ever evolving, ever-growing big old scary place.  I don’t think anyone monitors it completely.  How could they?  Okay, Well maybe it’s not scary but there is a lot of unknown and in the same way that the universe is unknown so is the internet.  Yes,  I did just compare the Internet to the universe!

Anyway, I digress.  I took my foot off my blogging peddle over Christmas and I haven’t really got going with it again.  I was addicted to posting blogs regularly trying to grow and get better stats.  I asked myself what for?

It certainly wasn’t the money or the glory or even the review items. Some people do make a living from it which is great, and one day I might but right now I have a different agenda.  My family. My son.

Robot looking excited

He’s so young and learning all the time and I don’t want to miss him.  I don’t want him to feel he is second best to my lap top. I don’t want to be tired because I was up till 2am making sure I had 5 blogs scheduled for the coming week. I did this last year a lot.  It’s not worth it, it’s obsessive.

Why am I writing about this though?  Honestly, I’ve felt like giving up and not blogging anymore.  Closing me down.  After a whole 12 months blogging.

Has 12 Months become the new 6 Months?

Running my linky #FamilyFun I’ve seen a lot of new bloggers start and it always surprises me when they mention how long or should it be short that they’ve been blogging for.  I’m also heartened when they break that 6 month stereotype. Another notch against a stat.  More and more people seem to be getting past 6 months.  It makes me think that the saying needs updating.

The thing is though, getting to 6 Months was easy.  Hard work, but easy to maintain.  Getting to 12 months almost wiped me out.  A blog vs life crisis that needed to compromise…

Almost is what I said so don’t panic, I’m not stopping, I’ve put too much effort in to this to see it end just like that.

So, no, 12 months is probably not the new 6 months because I’m sticking around but by stepping back off the clutch a little it has certainly made me appreciate how far I’ve come.  It also gives me chance to watch the others around me achieve all these mini milestones too.

Quote : the doors we open and close each day decide the lives we lead

How long have you been blogging?  How do you feel about these landmark blogoversaries and the stigmas with it?

Please say I’m not alone with my thoughts of stopping!? No pressure!!

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74 Comments

  1. I’ve been blogging in earnest for coming up to 3 years now. Before that I had a couple of blogs that I never really got to grips with. You’re right though, it’s addictive isn’t it?! I honestly think that any person who blogs and says they’ve felt like just ditching it, is blatantly lying! It’s all-consuming and the passion feeds off the passion but we all experience burn-out and that’s fine, isn’t it. As for the landmarks, well I take them with a pinch of salt. After all, putting in x amount of hours a day/week/month totally depends on your circs and the stats that follow reflect that. p.s. It would be lovely if you stuck around though… 🙂

    1. isntitpretty

      I’m not giving up Carol! I just think saying most people give up by 6 months is rubbish, it’s probably 6 weeks!! I think at 6 months I was finding my feet, at 12 months I’m getting comfy and feeling happy with what I’m doing!! I think we all have days where we think sod the blog for a bit but it’s always there waiting for us to come back!

  2. I really hasn’t noticed young taken your foot off the pedal since Xmas – your Pintrest is going so well Imd assumed hound been focussing on that. I totally agree about compromise. I was up working late one night last week (school work not blogging actually) and I was sooooo irritable the day after with the children – it made me so sad and I realised it really isn’t worth it – they are growing up so quickly. So pleased you’re not stopping blogging as you are one of my face parent bloggers – you are so right about the community – I reckon that stat applies here too – 95% are supportive and welcoming and the other 5 percent well…… Your phrase above sums it up….. Anyway I always remains myself this is just my hobby and no one will notice if the blogs quiet for a bit….apart from my Mum and my Hubby maybe . Well done on a really successful year xx
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    1. isntitpretty

      Thank you Hayley! I sort of do it for our parents too! It’s a place for them to find out all the little things we’d forget to tell them on the phone. I’ve definitely been blogging less, I used to churn out 3-4 or more posts a week, I’ve cut back to 2 or 3 recently. I’m definitely more chilled out!

  3. Well you know how long I’ve been blogging, and I must say that ever since returning to work I’ve struggled to find the time/energy/inspiration to write posts, I’ve got ideas, but I just don’t get them on “paper”… I think once this being a working mum is the new normal then hopefully the joy and blogging will return, until then it’ll be somewhat sporadic and random when I blog. I think that’s okay though, I could easily just say I’ve failed and that’s that! But who is to say what is the right amount of posts in a week or a month, after all I’m blogging for my own enjoyment of it 🙂
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  4. I think generally, 6 months is easy. I’m at 5 months, I think. And, still very much in that excited, learning everything, having lots to write phase.

    I haven’t yet hit a point where it hasn’t been exciting. I’m sure we all, as with most things in life will have harder times though.

    6 months is the honeymoon period!

    #familyfun

  5. You’re definitely not alone. There is so much pressure when you see other bloggers doing well and you feel like you want to compete. But then, I agree that it’s not worth it if it consumes your life or takes you away from your family. I was very proud that I didn’t give up at the 6-month mark but I won’t be to 12 months until the end of July. I hope you keep going as you are great. #familyfun

  6. For me it ebbs and flows. I binge then there’s famine. I’m trying to be more consistent. I’m a very tired lady but pretty busy too (probably no more busy than any other parent bloggers out there, mind). Some weeks I feel energised and stay up until 2 am every night for a week because I have so much I want to write. Then a slump comes. I sleep in the day, I go to bed early, I can hardly bare to even look at my phone. I had some coaching with Aby and she told me to save up the extra posts. She gave me loads of great tips to give my second year more stability and I’m still implementing them now. Well done for reaching 12 months, I hope you stick around for the next 12 x

    #FamilyFun
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    1. isntitpretty

      Definitely saving them up is a good idea. I’ve made a promise to only publish so much each week in February to get used to it. I keep writing and drafting other posts in spare time which I will use in later months! You keep up the good work too lovely lady!

  7. You’re not alone! I’ve thought about quitting many times when it became clear I couldn’t compete with the ‘big’ bloggers. But I think it’s all about finding the right balance for you. If you’re not making blogging your career (or trying to), there’s no need to spend all of your free time on it if you feel like you’re missing out on family time. #FamilyFun

  8. Hmm it’s an interesting one. For what it’s worth you taking your foot off the pedal is still more than I do even when I’m at my ‘maximum’ blogging capacity The thing is it depends what you put in and I’ve always been too lazy to put the effort in to social media and spend the time putting myself out there. I enjoy the writing and reading of other blogs and the rest I find I don’t make time for. So I am destined to only grow by about 1% a year!! I’m glad you’re sticking around, your little piece of the Internet is inspirational and lovely ❤ #FamilyFun
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  9. I just passed the two year mark. Its a bit sad when I read the comments on some of my earlier posts and see all these people that I really enjoyed reading that have quit. I think that with more people starting off self hosted, 12 months is when there is that real dilemma over whether or not to renew. Its a big time commitment if you actually want others to read your stuff. #familyfun
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    1. isntitpretty

      I’m glad I pay monthly!! Although have just gone to quarterly for ease! I suppose not the domain, I think I paid for a 2 year domain, least I’ll be around for a bit longer! Me he he he… not going to quit

  10. I have been blogging in earnest for 12 months now, but it’s only recently that I discovered the blogosphere. So I am still at the read, read, read some more stage, and I still have a very patchy grip on blog stats and what they mean.
    I would love to grow my blog but I don’t want it to take over my entire life. With four kids I have more important things to worry about. As with all things it’s ok to slow down every once in a while. I find it makes it all the more enjoyable x 🙂
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  11. We’d be lying if we said we never feel like jacking it all in! But like you say, too much hard work has gone in to it! This blog of mine has been alive for almost four years but I class it’s one year blogversary as April this year. That’s when I really took it seriously, jakijellz.com was registered and that’s when it got serious – when I put money in to it! Everyone needs a break. I guess the beauty of being your own blog boss is that you can pick your own hours. And if that means taking it easy for a bit – then go for it. #FamilyFunLinky
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  12. I think you have the right attitude putting your family first and not stressing so much about making a living from your blog. That will come, you just need to go at your own pace. Also, I love the Family Fun linky, it’s the only one I participate in every single week 🙂 A x #familyfunlinky
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  13. This is a really honest post, which will resonate with many and therefore help many – which is one of the lovely things about blogging, isn’t it? It’s what keeps us all going when it’s not for money. That and just loving writing and finding it so cathartic. Keep doing what you love to your schedule. You own your blog and if you want to write 1 post a week or a month, it doesn’t matter, as long as you feel you have a balance. I really admire anyone who runs a linky. Keep up the brilliant work! Alison x #FamilyFun
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    1. isntitpretty

      I’m keeping the linky rolling because i genuinely love the bloggers that come back each week Id miss them if they stopped too! I’ve found the reading manageable as I do it over a few days a bit at a time! I may not promote it every week but always flattered when people come without a prompt!!

    1. isntitpretty

      Hmm yes it crossed my mind and your probably right. It can’t be about free stuff you need to be going a while before you get any decent offers!! I think I got offered a sudecream sample about 6 weeks in, it was totally rock and roll… I turned it down!!

    1. isntitpretty

      You’ll get some kinda of epiphany Sam, i do think balance is hard to find and it comes and goes so it’s just the matter of staying focused with what you want! (Whatever that is!!) easier said than done x

  14. suz

    I appreciate your honesty in this post. I can totally understand that you need to put your little son first. He’ll grow up before you can blink. I’ve been blogging consistently for a year now. It’s grown steadily and I hope to grow it more this year but it is soooo time consuming. I am pleased to have found the blogging community though. That makes it all worthwhile.
    #familyfun
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  15. You’ve done so well with your blog so far. It’s great to hear that you’ve reached a point where you’re finding your balance. It can quickly become invasive. I had a similar sense check over Christmas and I’m enjoying feeling a bit more relaxed about. You run a fab linky and share great posts so you don’t have to worry about followers 🙂 #FamilyFun
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  16. Oh it’s such a tough one isn’t it, Karen. I’ve been through this dilemma heaps but less so since I’ve taken a step back from the noise if I’m honest. I now write for me when I want to write – no pressure, no deadlines – I have my intentions for the year and I hope to achieve those. I read the blogs I enjoy and I engage where I can but my family 100% comes first. I do not blog after they are home from school – I appreciate this is different with pre-school children and with those trying to make a living from blogging – it’s about getting a perspective and not getting too sucked in! Don’t stop now though lovely as you’ve come so far! It will also serve as a wonderful memory bank for when the Robot is older xx #FamilyFun
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  17. I have been blogging for a year, which started because I self-published a book on Amazon. I read that blogging can up your profile and help to get the word out about the book. I did almost give up in August. I hadn’t found the facebook communities and I had stupidly thought that I shouldn’t be seen as a blogger or do linky’s because I had written a book first and was an author. I literally had no idea how many different blogs there were- I only knew of the likes of the unmumsy Mum and Constance Hall so I assumed they were all like that. In the last 6 months I have ‘met’ so many amazing people and found the best support, I have learnt about all the types of blogs and love how they vary. I really enjoy reading different things and it made me realise that I can do both writing books and writing blogs and continue with my way of blogging. Gaining support is the biggest part for me though.
    Thanks so much for tweeting me to join in xx #familyfunlinky

    1. isntitpretty

      That’s brilliant Emma, I spotted you over on another linky and thought what you’ve done with your book is really good. Blogging is fun too and the community is indeed vast and wonderful. Keep plodding away and I suggest you get your head around Pinterest because this will probably be a game changer with the sort of content you’re writing. You are more than welcome to join in again!

  18. I really like this post, it’s so honest. I always admired your determination and want to grow your blog so I’m glad you are not giving up! We can easily get swept up in other people’s agendas when we are finding our feet – which is why I stopped blogging for a while. I too didn’t /don’t want to review things (unless totally relevant to my special needs interests) but getting cake reviews and other things were great for my ego but not my waistline or the real reason for blogging – to help others and help myself. Happy to be back and reading your blog again x #familyfun

    1. isntitpretty

      Yay welcome back!! I try not to feel bad about what others are doing, there are so many busy and inspiring people that it’s difficult. I remind myself to be myself all the time!!

  19. I love my blog and haven’t felt like jacking it in yet (only 7 months in), but I do keep thinking about cutting back and stopping with all the linkies. If you count the ones I add 2 posts to I must join 20 a week and leaving a min of 4 comments that’s 80 posts I have to read and comment on each week and it sometimes feels like that’s all I do. I find it hard though as I love joining in and reading those posts and every time I miss one I feel like I’m missing out! I took time off this last week for half term and only joined three and it feels quite liberating. I may have to alternate which ones I join each week to cut it in half but I’ve said that before and I caved in
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    1. isntitpretty

      Oh Alana I know how you feel with the linkys because I went through that phase, like I felt I had to join in! I don’t really do any extra at the moment but could easily read 80 odd blogs a week anyway!!

  20. Im heading near to the six months mark and to help celebrate the pending one year anniversary in september, I’ve booked my ticket to BML17!! I am set on making this blog something to be proud of. the community are amazing and i’ve met some people online that are people i would call friends and very much look forward to meeting them in the flesh! #familyfun

  21. Hey hun, I’ve been blogging for over a year now and am still hooked. I do consider giving up now and then, usually when I’m run down and finding it hard to make time for everything.

    However, I think its about prioritising, you know family comes first and thats all that matters. Never blog for cash because I believe that the internet is swamped with bloggers making it big.. blog for YOU
    XXXX

  22. I’m definitely feeling the pressure now as I head past 6 months. But I put the pressure on myself. I’m enjoying mostly just using nap time to blog but oh so aware I’m going to be screwed when naps stop.. I regularly feel like giving up then get a nice email or comment and get picked up again. It’s definitely addicting I’ve and I have to really stop it taking over my life! #FamilyFun

    1. isntitpretty

      That pressure is the worst!! I went through that phase of I must try doing it all but I’ve come out the other side a better person/blogger form it. Remember to take some time for yourself not just blog xxx

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